Guide

Your constellation is the ring on the Constellation tab. You're in the middle and your connections are around you. Tap someone to open their card.

You can choose between three views under Settings → Account → Constellation view. By time together: your connections are placed automatically based on the time you recently spent together. Your own circles: you sort your connections yourself into three private circles and give them your own names, for example Partner, Family and Friends. Each connection sits in one circle. By how close it felt: the rings follow how close the contact felt, from the private rating you give when you log.

Groups: want to look at a few connections together? Create a private group via Settings → Connections → Groups, for example Housemates. Pick the group above your constellation and the rest fades. Nobody moves. Saved a moment with several people? Then Floramy offers once to keep them as a group. You decide whether you want that and what the group is called.

A group is private by default: nobody in the group sees it. How someone can see it with their consent is explained under Shared groups. You can also set how often the group ideally gets together, from every two weeks to every three months. If the group has not been together for a while, Floramy gives you a small nudge. That never changes the color of anyone’s island.

• On track (green): you spend roughly the agreed time together.
• Slipping behind (amber) / Significantly behind (red): you're spending less and less time together than agreed.
• New (blue): too little time has been logged to see a trend yet.
• Over saturated (purple): together you've agreed more time with your connections than you have available (Settings → Account → Availability).
• Paused (gray): while the agreement is paused, no extra time counts.

Colors change gradually, not from one day to the next. That way your constellation feels less like a countdown and more like a calm picture of how things are going. Below you can read how the calculations work.

• The period you look at: above your constellation you choose between Recent (the last 3 months) and Long-term (the last 12 months). The period always ends today and moves along every day, so old time drops off by itself.
• Each connection on its own: every connection is compared with its own agreement. Three days a week with one person says nothing about another.
• Pausing and exception passes: that period is excused instead of your target changing. See Exception passes.
• Gone quiet: a separate signal, based on how long ago you last had contact, independent of the color. A connection can be on track and quiet at the same time.
• Long repeat cycles: if an agreement comes round less often than the chosen period, for example once every six months, it can look behind. Choose Long-term then.

Add someone via Settings → Connections. Invite them by email or add them without an email address. You can start right away with agreements, set days, notes, reminders and check-ins. Everything is kept if they accept later.

Even without an invitation you can add someone without an account. They immediately get an island and a color based on the time you log. The logging mode only matters once someone accepts your invitation.

• Private nickname: give every connection a nickname only you can see.
• Ending connections: the connection ends right away for both of you, without confirmation. You each keep your own history. The connection stays under No longer connected until you remove it.
• Overview: under Settings → Connections you find people under Waiting for your response, Your connections, Waiting for a reply, Not yet on Floramy and No longer connected.
• Following up on invitations: after a week without a reply, a quiet reminder appears on the card. You can send the invitation again (at most once a day) or cancel it.
• Yearly reminders: for example, add an anniversary to a connection's reminders. Floramy repeats it every year.
• People you may know: under Settings → Connections → Add connections you find suggestions of people who turned on Friends of friends can find me and aren't in private mode. Tap Connect to send a request, or the cross to hide someone for good.
• Decline and block: you can decline and block a request. That person can then no longer send you requests and isn't told about the block. You can unblock under Settings → Connections → Manage. To limit spam, you can send at most 10 new requests a day and have 20 requests open at once.
• Invite with a link: no email address needed! Go to Settings → Connections → Add connections → Invite with a link. Create a link and share it via WhatsApp, Signal, email or any other app. The link works only once, for the first person who opens it, so share it only with the right person. Until the link is used, you can find it under Waiting for a reply and share it again or cancel it. An invite link is different from adding someone without an account: you do that to track someone yourself, without them being on Floramy yet.

An agreement is a commitment about how much time you spend together, for example 3 days per 7 days. Either of you can set one from the connection page. Changes need the other person's confirmation, except when you lower your own logged time. This only applies once the connection has accepted you; before that, changes take effect right away. Agreements never apply retroactively.

The agreed time together sets the island's color and only counts time you actually spend together. You set your own private goal under My ideal contact.

You can let agreements repeat from weekly to yearly. The period you choose affects how the color is calculated.

Need a break? Pause an agreement from the connection card. No time builds up while it's paused. Only the person who set the pause can end it; the earlier history is kept. Going on holiday? Under Settings → Connections → Pause everything you pause all your connections at once. Optionally add a label and a return date. The other person sees this information and everything can resume automatically on the date you set. Earlier pauses are kept.

Every connection has a logging mode, set from that connection's own settings page:

• Shared: every entry needs the other person's confirmation before it counts.
• Independent (the default for a new connection): entries confirm automatically.

A new connection starts on Independent, since there is no one yet to confirm anything with. Once the other person has accepted your invitation, you can only switch log mode if they agree, in either direction: Shared makes them confirm every entry, Independent drops that check.

Under Settings → Connections → About me you add short facts about yourself, such as what you like, what is on your wishlist or what you would rather avoid. Sharing is off by default. You choose which connections you share the list with, and you can stop sharing at any time. Whoever has access sees the list on your card. If someone asks Floramy for a gift or date idea for you, Floramy uses your list and shows “From your list …”. Keep it to short facts and do not share links, email addresses or phone numbers. Your private notes are never shared.

Whether an entry counts straight away depends on the connection’s log mode (see Shared vs. Independent).

• Manual: under Log time, choose who, when and how you were in touch. Only time in person counts toward an agreement; messages and calls do count as contact.
• With your voice: say for example “had coffee with Sam yesterday”. Floramy fills in the form. You check it, and nothing is logged until you confirm.
• With several people: select several connections at once. Everyone gets their own entry.
• Via your calendar: connect Google or Apple Calendar. Every day Floramy looks for events that have already happened and puts possible matches in a queue for your approval. You add future plans yourself with Plan ahead.
• Video calls: events with a meeting link are recognized as video calls. On the connection you set whether they count as In person or Remote. Without a setting, Floramy asks you.
• We're together now: if you and your connection each tap the same connection within about an hour, a day is logged automatically. No location data or tracking needed. You can also select several people who are there; everyone confirms for themselves and doesn't see who else you selected.
• Fixed days together: for example, set every Tuesday on a connection's settings page. Once you both confirm, that time is logged automatically. You can end or pause it on your own at any time.

On Activity → Timeline you can always edit or delete your own entry as long as it isn't confirmed yet. After that, it only works with the other person's approval.

Think a confirmed entry from your connection is a duplicate? Flag it as a duplicate. They get a notification and can edit or delete the entry themselves. You can never edit or delete someone else's entry directly.

An exceptionally long time together, such as a holiday, can temporarily distort your indicator. Exclude that entry from the calculation, once. The time simply stays in your history. Tick Exclude once when you log it, or request it afterwards via Activity → Timeline. Your connection has to approve the exclusion.

Sometimes life doesn't go as planned. With an exception pass you free a period on a connection from expectations. That period counts as completely fine, and time you logged still counts. You can use 2 per 12 months. Difference from excluding an entry: an exception pass covers a whole period, while excluding only keeps one specific entry out of the calculation.

A connection's page has two reset options: Reset logged time and Reset everything about this connection. Both need the other person's approval, and each button explains exactly what it deletes when you tap it.

Using Google Calendar for this connection? Reconnect it afterward, or events Floramy already saw won't be re-suggested.

Under Reminders you set, per connection, after how many days without logged contact the island shows that it has gone quiet. This is separate from the indicator color. Under My ideal contact you say how often you like to be in touch, through messages, calls or visits. This is private and doesn't change the island's color. You see your goal as an empty, half or full ring on the card. For every logged contact you can also say how close it made you feel, from Normal to Much closer. This stays private too. You can let the rings show how close contacts felt via Settings → Account → Constellation view. Until you have rated at least three contacts, the ring follows the time you spent together.

Add birthdays there too (just day and month) and set one-off or yearly reminders. Floramy reminds you every year. Tap the pencil next to a reminder to change it.

Each connection has its own notes, visible only to you, never the other person, no matter what. Add anything worth remembering (what they like, what to avoid, an ongoing thing to follow up on) from that connection's own page. On the app, a microphone button next to the note field lets you dictate instead of typing.

• Date ideas and conversation starters: add a note about someone and Floramy can help you with a summary, a date or gift idea, or a message in your style. You always copy and send messages yourself; Floramy never sends anything for you.
• Suggestions are made fresh each time from your notes and are not saved.
• At suitable moments, such as a birthday, a period without contact or an agreement you're behind on, Need ideas? appears on the connection card. Unanswered signals from your connection can also appear there, with a button to reply.
• Help me say it: for the things that are hard to say. Choose a situation (moving a plan, needing time to yourself, wanting more or less time together, or not keeping to what you agreed) and Floramy drafts two or three messages in your own words, using your agreement and your notes if you have any. It works without notes. You still send it yourself.

Optionally set a location on the connection page. Floramy then searches online for current places nearby. Your connection does not see your location.

A signal is a low-pressure way to let people know what you're up for, for example drinks tonight. Choose under Signals who you share it with. Replies are private and signals fade away on their own.

Inviting one person: send a signal with a date to one connection. On Interested the plan is confirmed and logged right away. If they pick Later with a different date, you decide: Interested confirms the plan, Not this time ends the proposal. After that there is no back-and-forth; send a new signal if neither date works.

You can also tap Ask [name] if they're up for it from a date idea to send a signal right away.

Availability: in the signal form, say you're available until a time you choose. Connections who may see your constellation see Free on your island and can tap it to send you a signal. Your availability expires on its own, but you can also end it earlier.

The date picker lets you ask a group which day suits them, and nobody needs an account to answer. On Log time, tap Date picker, pick up to 10 days and share the link. People answer yes, maybe or no for every day, with just a name.

You choose who sees the answers: only you (everyone else sees counts per day), or everyone with the link (names and answers, and the page says so before anyone answers). Floramy marks a best day but never picks one for you: tap Pick this day to close it, and everyone sees the result with an add-to-calendar file. You can also close it without choosing, or reopen it.

Someone who answers gets a private link to change their answer while the date picker is open, and to delete it at any time. A date picker expires after 30 days (or the day after its last day, if that is sooner), its answers are deleted 90 days later, and you can delete it yourself at any time. If a page looks wrong, there is a report link on it.

Adding a moment: capture a memory with a date (or trip period), a short note and the people who were there. Go to Timeline → Add a moment. You can create trips up to a year ahead.

Inviting people: people you add can accept, decline or leave the moment later. Until they accept, others only see them as “someone”. You see their name with the status “Waiting”. People who aren't on Floramy yet can be invited from the moment. The invitation email contains the dates, never your note.

Counts as time together: tick this if the moment also counts as time together. After acceptance the time is logged. Your connections can accept the memory without counting the time. You can change this later.

Photos: add up to 6 photos per person and 30 per moment. Only people who can see the moment have access. Whoever declines or leaves the moment loses that access. Floramy removes location data and has photos checked by Anthropic. Rejected photos are not saved. Report inappropriate photos with Report photo. Your photos disappear when you delete your account. See also Photo reminder under Notifications.

Deleting a moment: people who could see the moment are notified so they can keep a memory of their own. Logged time stays, and you can adjust or remove it separately.

New connections: do you see a name on a moment of someone you aren't connected to yet? Tap Connect next to the name to send a request.

Share as a picture (Plus): the share icon on a moment makes a card with the date, your note if you like, and one of your own photos if you choose one. Names are off unless you switch them on, and only for people who accepted; ask them before posting. The card is made on your phone and Floramy keeps no copy. A milestone (“100 days together”) can be shared the same way from its banner.

The Activity tab has three views:

• Timeline: everything with the people in your constellation on one line through time: Today, Upcoming and Past, with time together, check-ins and moments side by side. The filter button narrows it by when, what, who, or only the things waiting for you. Birthdays and reminders you set yourself show up in Upcoming for the next two weeks; tap one to open that connection.
• Graph: your indicator trend over time. Tap a name to focus on just that line, or use Total view to see everyone overlaid. "Plan ahead" below the chart lets you sketch a future visit and see its effect on the line before you log it; nothing's saved until you do.
• Below the graph, Contact over time shows, per connection, how often you were in person (In person) versus in touch by message or call (Remote), so you can see whether you stayed in touch, not just whether you gave the agreed time.
• A group on the graph: above the chart, pick one of your groups instead of Everyone. You see when the group was last together (a day counts when at least half of them were there, from your own entries), the days you met in this period, and one small tile per person with their own line, when you last saw them and which get-togethers they came to. The tiles are part of Floramy Plus. Nothing here is a group score: each line is your own connection with that person.
• Notifications: here you find updates and requests waiting for you. Do you need to say yes or no to something? Then there is a button, like Open connection or Open moment. As soon as you respond, the button disappears automatically, even if you do it from the connection or the Timeline. Other notifications are for information only. Clear them with Mark read or Mark all … read. You can find more under Settings → Notifications.

A streak stat appears once a connection's been on track 2+ periods in a row; a one-time banner marks your total time together crossing 10, 25, 50, 100, 200, 365, 500 or 1000 days. Toggle both via Settings → Account → Streaks and milestone celebrations.

• Channel & summary: Settings → Notifications controls whether you get email, in-app notifications, both, or none. Floramy only emails you if you chose email or both. It also sets how often the check-in summary arrives. A one-off reminder on a connection always arrives on its own date.
• Status-change alert: optional, off by default, fires only on a real crossing into or out of on-track. Offered once you have 2+ connections.
• Gone-quiet alert: a separate toggle, fires once per quiet spell, works with just one connection.
• Waiting for you: anything that needs your yes or no (a proposal, an entry to confirm, a moment you were tagged in, a connection request) appears in Notifications, makes that connection's island glow, and sits at the top of the page where you answer it. Answer it anywhere and it is answered everywhere. Routine new entries only notify you if you turn that on.
• Photo reminder: optional and off by default. Switch it on under Settings → Notifications and choose your own time window. Within that window you get a nudge at random moments to take a photo of a special moment, about one every two hours and at most three a day. If you have already added a photo that day, nothing more comes. This only works in the Floramy app with notifications allowed.

Privacy comes first. Private mode is on by default. People you aren't directly connected to see you as “Someone” and can't view your constellation, add you to a group or suggest you. Switch private mode off to decide per connection what you share: your name, group view, being found through friends of friends, and availability. Everything is off by default. Your choices are kept when you switch private mode back on. When you switch it off, Floramy offers to turn on your settings for all your connections at once. Without private mode, your direct connections can view your constellation, including the time logged with others. Their names stay “Someone” unless you gave them permission to share their name.

AI and your data: AI features such as ideas, message drafts and summaries only work when you start them yourself. Floramy shares only the necessary data with Claude (Anthropic): your 30 newest notes about that connection, their shared About me list and, if you set one, your general area. For message drafts the chosen idea is sent along too. For date and gift ideas with an area, Claude may search the web to name a real place; a map link only opens when you tap it. Floramy doesn't keep the generated answers.

You can download your data via Settings → Account → Download my data and delete your account at any time. Read the Privacy Policy for all the details.

A group is private by default. For someone to be able to invite you into their groups, switch private mode off and turn on Allow group view on your connection with them. You decide separately, per group, whether to accept.

Once you accept, you can see who else in that group has also accepted, plus a read-only view of the group owner's own status with each of them. Anyone who hasn't accepted yet, or never turned the setting on, just shows as “Someone”.

If you're not yet connected to someone revealed this way, you can send them a connection request right from the group. The group's owner always sees everyone in their own group normally, whatever anyone else answers.

Illustrations: in Settings → Account → Illustrations, choose Plants, Cats or Dogs. The same states are drawn as animals instead: a playful animal for on track, a cheerful one for a new connection, a sitting, standing or overwhelmed one as things slip or pile up, and a grey sleeping one for paused or not connected. It only changes what you see; other people keep their own choice.

Time zone: Floramy fills this in from your device the first time you open Settings → Account. Reminders, birthdays and summaries then arrive on your own calendar day, in your own morning (around 8). Change it there if you travel or move.

Language: pick English, Nederlands, Deutsch, Français, Español, Italiano in Settings → Account. Until you choose, Floramy follows your browser or phone language (also on the sign-in page). Emails, notifications, summaries, push messages, and the AI's ideas, drafts, and catch-ups all follow the language you chose. Each person gets theirs in their own language.

Settings save themselves: change a setting and it saves after a moment, with a short "Saved" beside it, so there's nothing to confirm. The only buttons left are where something is sent to another person, such as proposing an agreement to a connection who has accepted you.

App lock: in Settings → Account → App lock, ask for a code, Face ID or fingerprint whenever Floramy opens. Optional, only on this device, and the lock screen itself walks you through it if you forget your code.

Tap the ? at the top to open the help chat. Ask a question about how Floramy works and you get an answer from this Guide. The help chat cannot see your connections or notes, so please don’t share personal details. If an answer isn’t clear, you can send the question to the founder.

The Coach answers questions about your own connections, such as when you last saw someone, how an agreement is going, or what you could do or say. It only uses what you have told Floramy: your agreements, check-ins, time together and private notes about that connection. Other people’s notes and calendar data are not shared.

Reviews: tap Review my month or Review my year under the Coach's input for an overview: per connection, how the time together compared with the period before and with what you agreed, and over a year, how many months had no time together. It describes, it does not advise. A review counts as one Coach message.

The Coach is off by default. You switch it on yourself under Settings → Account → Coach, after a short explanation. Your questions and the relevant information are then sent to Anthropic to produce an answer. Floramy does not keep your conversations. The Coach can make mistakes and does not give relationship advice. You can switch it off again at any time.

The Feedback page (the star icon in the top nav, alongside this guide and the notification bell) covers bugs, feature ideas, and general suggestions, plus a separate "Concern about someone" category if something about how another person is using Floramy needs a direct, private look.

When the founder replies, the answer appears in a green box under your message in What you've sent, and a Resolved tag shows once it is dealt with. Tap Got it when you have read it: a resolved item then folds away into a closed Resolved list you can still open. Only you can see the reply.